Listening

Posted by Phillip C Gordon on Monday, May 13, 2013


Musings from the garden.  More than often we are listened to with ears that have an agenda.  This is not a cynical comment, nor a pessimistic realisation.  For most people it cannot be helped as they amble along through life with a narrow reach of stimulation and desire.  How we are listened to often, and how we often listen, is in accordance with a set of unconscious wants.  To really listen requires the ability to put oneself aside.  There is a kind of paradox in this position, because what one is being called to do is be present, as your self, with another, so you aside yet you there.  If we are listening with a predetermined agenda, what is being presented to us or asked of us, will seem a threat to that agenda.  Our ears will shape what we hear and determine the value of it according to our own mind-set, our own desires, without being able to really hear what the other is saying.  Our decisions thereafter will be about us, and not necessarily the topic of discussion or the person sitting in front of us.  To listen we need compassion.  Compassion is more than just hanging out with another’s suffering or perspective, it is really being present and not precluding it out of hand because the experience being expressed before you is not in tandem with your own paradigm.  When we are able to hear someone unqualified, we also grant ourselves the opportunity to make choices with integrity, choices that sit within our own value set.  Listening is a fine art, one that needs attention and practice; all too often we are listening with an agenda. All too often we are being heard through closed ears.  Most of the agendas we carry are unconscious, even though we are pursuing something that seems on the surface correct and true to our life.  To uncover these series of unconscious agendas and set of focuses is the task.  That is discovering your self.  There are many ways to achieve this, though one of the most profound I have found is through action, through practice.  By living this life in a conscious way, watching what we do and the result of it, being in life with a willingness and tenacity to learn and discover what is beyond the seeing eye.  To practice the art of listening is action. 

None of us escape times of need and turmoil, moments of disorientation and despondency.  If we are denying this in others there is a good chance that we are denying this in ourselves.  We will be grabbing hold of what we already know and reapplying it, thus creating the same environment from whence that very dilemma sprung, though for a while it will seem different.  It is the same dedication to this consistency that removes us from listening to others.  

One of the conclusions I draw from this observation, a conclusion that I often come to, is no matter the question this life needs a craft to live it really well.  A craft being a set of tools that can be used toward an outcome.  The tools of a craft need practice, that means with awareness apply them through action.  If we don’t gather a craft for ourselves we will continue to stumble through this life in a state of reaction to our circumstances and life’s menu.  There are many books of instruction out there.  Find the one that works for you, that provides for you a path that will lead you down into the centre of your own life, connected to the world around you, born of an eternal Mystery.  



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Phillip C Gordon I am an Alchemist, falling into the fires of transformation over and over as I realise the gold that I am. I choose to serve all humanity to that end, to raise the consciousness of humanity, one by one if that be the case. I am a writer, a speaker, an actor and fool.

Listening

Posted by Phillip C Gordon on Monday, May 13, 2013


Musings from the garden.  More than often we are listened to with ears that have an agenda.  This is not a cynical comment, nor a pessimistic realisation.  For most people it cannot be helped as they amble along through life with a narrow reach of stimulation and desire.  How we are listened to often, and how we often listen, is in accordance with a set of unconscious wants.  To really listen requires the ability to put oneself aside.  There is a kind of paradox in this position, because what one is being called to do is be present, as your self, with another, so you aside yet you there.  If we are listening with a predetermined agenda, what is being presented to us or asked of us, will seem a threat to that agenda.  Our ears will shape what we hear and determine the value of it according to our own mind-set, our own desires, without being able to really hear what the other is saying.  Our decisions thereafter will be about us, and not necessarily the topic of discussion or the person sitting in front of us.  To listen we need compassion.  Compassion is more than just hanging out with another’s suffering or perspective, it is really being present and not precluding it out of hand because the experience being expressed before you is not in tandem with your own paradigm.  When we are able to hear someone unqualified, we also grant ourselves the opportunity to make choices with integrity, choices that sit within our own value set.  Listening is a fine art, one that needs attention and practice; all too often we are listening with an agenda. All too often we are being heard through closed ears.  Most of the agendas we carry are unconscious, even though we are pursuing something that seems on the surface correct and true to our life.  To uncover these series of unconscious agendas and set of focuses is the task.  That is discovering your self.  There are many ways to achieve this, though one of the most profound I have found is through action, through practice.  By living this life in a conscious way, watching what we do and the result of it, being in life with a willingness and tenacity to learn and discover what is beyond the seeing eye.  To practice the art of listening is action. 

None of us escape times of need and turmoil, moments of disorientation and despondency.  If we are denying this in others there is a good chance that we are denying this in ourselves.  We will be grabbing hold of what we already know and reapplying it, thus creating the same environment from whence that very dilemma sprung, though for a while it will seem different.  It is the same dedication to this consistency that removes us from listening to others.  

One of the conclusions I draw from this observation, a conclusion that I often come to, is no matter the question this life needs a craft to live it really well.  A craft being a set of tools that can be used toward an outcome.  The tools of a craft need practice, that means with awareness apply them through action.  If we don’t gather a craft for ourselves we will continue to stumble through this life in a state of reaction to our circumstances and life’s menu.  There are many books of instruction out there.  Find the one that works for you, that provides for you a path that will lead you down into the centre of your own life, connected to the world around you, born of an eternal Mystery.  



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